I had a very early refreshing walk with Nicola Marshall yesterday in Conwy. It was just what I needed as a restorative grief day. We laughed, we talked, we walked in easy silence and we shared our boys Lucas and George.

We met an amazing lady 87 years young who shared her knowledge of the area and her life. Margaret was an interesting character and we were in a safe space so Nicola told her we were both bereaved parents.

She was shocked but lovely and asked the question: does it not make the grief worse being in the company of other bereaved parents?

We explained it makes it better as we understand each other and Nicola talked about finding her tribe and grieving as a community.

This is often the assumption and fear friends and family have that by spending time with other bereaved parents we are getting stuck and not allowing us to move on. It’s somehow keeping us down and it’s not healthy for our wellbeing.

Margaret went on to ask would it not stop you getting over it.

We explained we will never be over the death of our child but seeing the journey of other bereaved parents further along helps us with our own individual grief journey.

Human beings are meant to live in communities. It’s how we thrive and grow.

I feel more relaxed in the company of others who understand and it’s helped me live and grow around my grief and love for George.

I am so flipping grateful for the community of bereaved parents I have met since George died. For each and every one of you I am thankful ❤️

p.s. the hat I bought for George as a Christmas present December 21 which he never got to receive so I have worn it for him every Christmas since.